WTF? Well there must be something so fucked up with filipino-americans or americans in general. This self-hating slut proves it. I live in manila and I HAVE NEVER ENCOUNTERED the "taking-the-shoes-off" custom in my whole life. You people have to understand that not all filipinos in america are from manila. Most of them actually originate from the provinces here which have strict cultures. And I've noticed that filipinos here in manila look more attractive than filipinos in america. Trust me. you'd have to come here to know and realize that we are the melting pot of diverse cultures, customs, race and physical features. We're even much more tolerant with homosexuality than america itself. so much for prejudice and stereotyping. and by the way, i'm good-looking and my hairstyle is not spikey. fashion here is a cross between european, american and oriental-asian. To top it off, guys from manila are confident, gentlemen, self-aware, fashionable, flirty, sociable, party-going and streetsmart. And we speak english better than other asian countries

Don't blame her. She's just being a rebellious child

Wow Elysia, very prejudice. How can you even say that most asian men are the same? You must be looking in the same areas. What self-respecting asain would wear Timberlands with a gold chain anyway? And if you are meeting men with gold chains.... Perhaps you are digging too shallow if you know what I mean

Being Asian in this business is something you have to consider, because sometimes people aren't as open. They'll say, I can't see you with a Caucasian person.

This post is a nightmare for Asian men everywhere. I'm full Asian (Chinese) and I have a personality. Oh but I'm sorry, I knew we weren't supposed to. I'm not studying business or medicine. My dad told me to go to Yale and I told him to fuck off. I'm a filmmaker, I was the most popular kid in my white suburban high school, I was among the smartest and the funniest, I'm musical and play 6 instruments one of them are the violin. I'm politically liberal, I go to the gym and lift more than half the fat asses that are there. My hair is never gelled or spikey, it's thick, rich, jet black, has silver strands, and every one asks me for advice on their own hair. I'm a feminist, a Trekkie, an atheist, and I'm gay. I've been with white, black, Asian, Hispanic, and Arab men and all of them intellectuals. Once I made out with 2 girls at a party to prove that I'm just as game as my stupid white friends. Yes, I'm willing to do almost anything just to make a point to those fucking racists out there who simply refuse to see me as anything but a loveless, thoughtless Asian man. I shouldn't have to prove myself, but I rise to the challenge anyway and I beat people at their own silly games.

I personally resent anyone and everyone, especially critical Asian women, who constantly pigeon-hole Asian-AMERICAN men as some sort of robot who are trained to do a list of things that his parents gave him. But sorry, you're not a woman, you're a girl, who's obviously not ready to put down the ideas she got from Seventeen magazine ten fucking years ago. Asian men are not geeks, outcasts, or shy fucks. No, I knew Asian men who were victimized by stereotypes in that way but they laughed at you secretly, joked about how dumb you were, and didn't envy you in any way. The only reason they didn't call you out to your face was because they didn't want to embarrass you. We make the most money even in America, we run the businesses, and yeah we pride ourselves on holding a family together (news flash- it's a GOOD thing that we do) and soon we will run the world's media outlets.

I suggest anyone reading this ridiculously banal article, which apparently shows up on the first page of google searches, to educate yourselves on real Asian men and not the ones this girl has only been able to attract as her company. Go travel, be open-minded, and actually befriend Asians. I don't care if this post was about YOUR interracial dating life. You brushed off Asian men as "trained puppy dogs" and thought your readers would consider it trivially true. You deserve to be criticized for your irresponsible and inaccurate comments.

I am a Filipino man that has been pinched, punched, yelled at, and hit with objects as a child by close relatives that are women because I WAS NOT A PUPPY DOG! But I can tell you this, there are those that complied to this formula for ONE reason.

RELIGION... I had annoying "aunties" who I didn't even fucking know, who would lecture me about being obedient because god is watching. Well, apparently god is selective with whom he watches. He doesn't watch some of my Pinay relatives or friends that are pretty much practice a double standard.

My favorite one is when a pinay girl would tell me that it is good to attend church and that I am doing the right thing by not going out, don't do drugs, and staying out of trouble. Then my white friend would give me the gory details about how he banged her like a slut the other night while they smoked out all night long.

Anyway, Filipino women tend to take a lead role vocally in the house. It is not necessarily the mother, but ALL the women who are linked somehow. Boys are taught at a young age that we are suppose to be obedient and pray all the time. "Aunies" also cry with devotion while praying too. This adds for the dramatics that way it seems more convincing.

Then you wonder about the fathers. Well, they are too busy working and trying to make the most out of a life in an environment not groomed of their own origins. My uncle tells me about the racial divide in the work place. Even though he is one of the best in his craft, the interest of those in power will always have their needs fulfilled first behind closed doors. But I guess those factors are being ignored, or rather disregarded, by these Asian women that resent Asian men.

"Titas" also name their boys Jonathan, Johnville, Benjamin, Richard, Roderick, Jason, Joseph, and so on.Do you see a pattern? Many of these boys don't have a short version of their names. So what is the point? There are already rules that start with correctly reciting their names. All of those nicknames Elysia mentioned are exclusive to people in the Philippines.

Basically, religion is the best tool of control for the masses. And these women know that. But as men, we are taught to follow this practice since god will destroy us with one false move and we always have to be NICE to everyone. But I have a solution for that. It is called Atheism. And there is an increasing amount of Filipino men that are silently joining the club. Our minds have become more independent and intelligent. We are still decent people. But we are seeing the light and facing a whole new outlook confidently. Just don't lose faith in us. ;)

This opinion piece is flawed in so many ways based on poorly fleshed out logic it's almost not even worth commenting on, but since I'm always looking for a good debate here's my take.

Ok so the author has stated that her past relationships with "Asian" guys were boring and predicable....ok.....so basically she ASSumes that dating non-Asians will always be less predicable and boring?...lol. So what happens when you've puppy trained your new non-Asian boyfriend with all there is to know eventually reaching the same point of being obedient and boring? What will she do then? Drop that boyfriend and find another one so she could train another one all over again? Seriously?

On to the next point, she says that they all had the same "Asian" look with spiked hair and whatnot....lol...well that is both their choice and her fault for choosing that stereotypical "Asian" look to date. There are many Asian guys that don't rock that stereotypical "Asian" look...but maybe those guys are not interested in Asian girls like herself? Who knows? The point is it is her fault for choosing those types of stereotypical Asian guys so stop whining. Instead of pointing the finger at Asian guys and making generalization she should look at herself and why she chooses stereotypical looking Asians instead of non-stereotypical ones....they do exist...lol.

With regards to taking off shoes when entering an Asian household, it is basically an old and outdated tradition that, depending on the family, holds various levels of value. Some families are anal about this while some don't really care. Personally in my home we wear shoes or slippers in the house because the floors are either ceramic tile or hardwood so it's easy to clean therefore we as well as guests do not need to leave shoes/slippers at the doors...lol....yes I'm Asian.

Finally as with everything in life what one prefers varies from person to person which is perfectly ok. What's NOT ok is to stereotype Asians as being boring and blaming them for YOUR choices and personal issues. I mean seriously.

Just for sh*ts and giggles...if one day I were to get bored of dating only Caucasian girls who "stereotypically" party, drank and had sex all the time and wanted something else, I'd be pretty damn stupid/ignorant to claim Caucasian girls as being so predictable and boring...

lol the first thing my korean bf told me before i met hes parents is to take my shoes off before entering hes parents house.